He’s a fantastic and committed single dad who has his 5-year-old son 50% of the time; he and his ex-divorced several years ago.She has struggled with addiction, thus making co-parenting a bit of a struggle at times. He’s truly wonderful; he’s kind, thoughtful, treats me with so much respect.For me, my ex was never a match for me physically (I’m not talking about intimacy here; we were an excellent match in the bedroom).I loved to run and lift weights, and enjoyed the social aspect of exercise, whereas he only exercised to lose weight and even then was very private about it.He drives an expensive, fast fancy car, wears a rolex and expensive jewelry, clothing and other accessories. He appears nice enough, but conveniently avoids answering personal questions about himself. Another scenario could be that he crashes with various friends or lives with a couple of women.
Your responsibility is to know exactly what you want in a man and to keep your eyes open for potential red flags. He spends money frivolously and likes to flash wads of money. You have been dating for a month or two and he has yet to articulate what he does for a living. Questions to ask yourself: Were the mama’s pregnant at the same time? You just find out the man you have been dating is living with his mom or in his sister’s basement.
If you chose to proceed in dating him, I caution you to proceed slowly and with eyes wide open. Comments like, “Bah, I just want it over,” or “Doesn’t matter, we’ve been strangers for years,” may seem casual, even confident — but they also mask what’s going on underneath and behind the scenes.
When a man has truly processed his divorce and moved on, he should be able to speak to it with compassion, kindness, and wisdom.
I have been dating a wonderful man for about four months now.
We’ve known each other almost 20 years prior to dating, and the transition to an amorous relationship was easy and natural.